Not Only Larp Safety System

Our safety system relies on the ability of players to set and respect boundaries, be able to say safe words, and be able to speak with the safety team in case you are not ok. If you have trouble doing that, this larp is not for you.

This document is inspired by the safety documents from Conscience, Living Games Conference, New World Magischola, and Just a Little Lovin’.

Code of conduct

    1. People are more important than the larp. Safety is our priority. Respect all the game security rules.
    2. Each person’s body is their own. They alone may set their boundaries and say what makes them comfortable. Please be clear establishing your limits, both physical and emotional. Don’t be afraid to modify your limits if you feel you need to during the game.
    3. Consent must be freely given and vocalized, and is considered inviolable. Respect everyone’s boundaries and don’t tease, gossip about, ostracize or retaliate against someone who has set a consent boundary. In fact, we would like you to thank your fellow co-players for setting boundaries, as practicing active consent negotiations allows everyone to feel more comfortable.
    4. Off-game harassment, abuse, or assault of any participant – or using the alibi of character to harass, abuse, or assault a player – is not tolerated. This includes any reference to the race, gender identity or presentation, sexuality, body size, conventional beauty, age, and experience of the player.
    5. Each participant is responsible for their own actions; for reading, understanding and abiding by the Code of Conduct; and for the consequences of their actions to others.
    6. Should anyone harm another participant, whether intended to do so or not, they must accept the responsibility of their own behavior. If you are informed about this kind of situation, you are expected to reflect on your own behavior and seek to change it. Don’t deflect, blame, or become defensive if you are informed that you have harmed someone.
    7. If you witness someone behaving in a manner that is against our Code of Conduct, we encourage you to ask them to stop. Please inform the Safety Team of the incident. You may report anonymously if you feel more comfortable doing so, and we will respect your privacy.
    8. Inform NotOnlyLarp’s team about any health problems or allergies we should take into consideration.

Safe words

Emergency: “Emergency, stop playing.” Everyone should stop their scene.

Players should announce their intentions to give the other player the chance to say a safe word:

– Green. When someone uses this, it means the rest of the players can raise their game intensity. It is a suggestion, not an order.

– Yellow. When someone uses this, the other players have to lower their game intensity. This is an order you have to follow.

– Red. The scene stops immediately. This is an order. If a participant uses this, the other players involved in the scene should ask them what they need.

Hard limits

  • Comments of the body of the players are prohibited.
  • Sexual violence will not be played on.
  • LGBTIphobia will not be played on.
  • Sexism will not be played on.



When acting out a public sex scene, one you want other players to witness, it needs to look like sex; this will be covered in the workshop. While we acknowledge that sexual violence plays a part in colonialism and oppression, we have decided to steer away from sexual violence in this game.

Safe space

This is an out of game space that works as a safety net for the players. If your play is having any negative impact on you, you can come here and eat, rebalance, relax, or sleep. You’ll find a walkie to contact the safety team.


We will not sell real alcohol during the game and ask players to drink responsibly if they want to bring their own beverages. Of course, we will remove the players that aren’t so responsible for the game. There will be non-alcoholic beverages representing in-game alcohol.

Are you OK?

Gamemasters or other players can ask if a player is ok with this sign:


You can reply with:

“Yes, I am OK”.

“Not sure”.

This hand signal, which means the player doesn’t quite know how they feel, or that it’s neither good or bad. Please ask the player if they want to stop the scene.

“No, I am not”.

Please bring the player to the safe space. If the player doesn’t answer, stop the scene.

Medical Team

NotOnlyLarp has a First Aid Team to deal with any health problems that might occur during the event. Please inform us about any health problems or allergies we should take into consideration and the way to deal with them should they arise. We also want to know any player willing to volunteer in helping our First Aid Team.

We have a first aid kit, but this does not include medication; everyone has to bring their own.

Unfortunately we don’t have a psychologist in the team.

Safety Team

NotOnlyLarp has a Safety Team to deal with any issue that can be considered a violation of the Code of Conduct or threaten attendee safety.
Feel free to raise any complaint to our Safety Team. Each complaint received will be evaluated on a case-by-case basis.


Cripzy Romero, Esperanza Montero, Alexandra “Lu” Beck, Enrique Esturillo, Javy Dorta and Kai Simon Fredriksen.


NotOnlyLarp’s definition of harassment may not necessarily align with legal definitions of harassment. Therefore, attendees should regard the following guidelines as expectations of conduct in addition to legally actionable actions. In other words, the legal expectations of tangible proof are not necessary for the Safety Team to take action upon a complaint.

For our purposes, harassment includes:

  • Verbal comments or displayed images that denigrate individuals based upon gender, gender identity/expression, sexual orientation, disability, physical appearance, body size, race, age, religion, political beliefs, philosophies, geographic origin, or socioeconomic status;
  • Body policing, including gender policing in all bathrooms;
  • Non-consensual physical or emotional interactions;
  • Non-consensual sexual acts.
  • Unwelcome sexual attention, whether verbal or physical.

This harassment policy applies to both in-person and online activities. Participants asked to stop any harassing behavior are expected to comply immediately. Not Only Larp volunteers and committee members are also subject to the anti-harassment policy.


We will provide members of the Safety Team with detailed instructions and training procedures in case of a violation of code emergency. Attendees can report harassment at any time:

Before the event: If you are privy to information about harassment towards yourself or someone else by someone in the community at large, please email us at Please include as many details as you consider necessary. These messages will remain strictly confidential, known only to the safety team. Reports received about registered attendees before the event are subject to the same consequences as those received during the game.

Please note that if a harassment issue occurs, at least one of us will need to speak firsthand to the person involved. We will keep any identifying information restricted to the safety team. It’s our policy because we know how misinformation can be spread accidentally between multiple people. We trust everyone here to be honest, but we will require firsthand information before we can take action as a general policy. Anyone in the safety team who personally knows the people involved in the incident won’t be able to make decisions about it.

During the event:

If a violation of the Code of Conduct becomes known, please a member of the Safety Team as soon as necessary. You can reach them personally or through any other member of NotOnlyLarp’s team. We will also provide contact information for on-staff Safety members at the start of the event in case of emergency.

After the event: You may choose to wait until after the event to report a violation, in which case, please email

Disciplinary Steps are organized into two levels based upon the severity of the violation.

Level 1: Monitoring the individual in question, pulling the individual aside to discuss the violation, and/or issuing verbal warnings.

Level 2:

Removing the individual from the game and, potentially, from future NotOnlyLarp events.

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